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10 Important Words in Christian Relationships

With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” (Eph. 4:2, 3, 32).

This exhortation from the Apostle Paul is a plea for church members to exercise some T.L.C. towards others.   We all have our shortcomings and weaknesses.  None of us are perfect.  I pray these 10 words will be manifest in all our dealings with one another:

1.“Lowliness”— Being humble. Not proud.

2.“Meekness”— Not easily provoked; Yielding rights.

3.“Longsuffering”— Patience.

4.“Forbearing”— Tolerance of another’s shortcomings and failures.

5.“Love”— Putting the other person ahead of yourself.

6.“Unity”— Sticking together.

7.“Peace”— Freedom from strife or agitation; calm.

8.“Kind” — Sympathetic, gracious, adverse to hurting.

9.“Tenderhearted”— Affectionate, pitying.

10.“Forgiving” — inclined to overlook offenses; mild; merciful.

These 10 words will make a difference in your church and in your family.  How many of these words are manifest in your relationships?

The Tenderized Heart

The Tenderized Heart

God maketh my heart soft, and the Almighty troubleth me.” —Job 23:16

God doesn’t bless hard-hearted people.  God uses people with a soft heart… a pliable heart… a tender heart.  David said, “my heart is like wax; it is melted…” (Ps. 22:14). “The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart” (Ps. 34:18). “…a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise” (Ps. 51:17).

How does God soften our heart so He can use us?  Job answers in our text—By troubling us.  If anyone knew about trouble, it was Job. He had financial troubles (Job 1:9-17). He had the trouble of death in his family (1:18-22). He had trouble with disease in his flesh (2:4-10). He even had trouble from his so-called friends (19:14-19).

Job must have had a very tender heart.

Think of how you tenderize a piece of meat? You pound on it. Trouble, adversity, trials, suffering all will make your heart soft, if you don’t turn away from God during those times.

It isn’t because God doesn’t love you that He allows trouble in your life. On the contrary, He loves you enough to make your heart soft. He is not trying to hurt you—He is softening you so you can be tenderhearted towards others (see Heb. 2:18).