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RELATIONSHIPS: A Blessing or a Curse?

He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed. —Proverbs 13:20

Life is about relationships. The company you keep will have a great deal to so with your conduct (Ps. 106:35; Prov. 22:24-25; 26:4; 1 Cor. 15:33). The friends you choose matter. The places you go matter. Your co-workers and class-mates matter.  RELATIONSHIP’S WITH THE WRONG PEOPLE CAN DESTROY YOU!

That is why separation is so important (Ex. 23:31-33; 1 Kings 11:1-2; Acts 2:40; 2 Cor. 6:17; Eph. 5:11; James 4:4).

  1. When God wants to bless you, He brings a person in your life—A companion, a spouse, a neighbor, a new church member, etc.
  • When God wanted to bless DAVID, He put JONATHAN in His life!
  • When God wanted to bless PAUL, He put BARNABAS in his life!
  • When God wanted to bless MOSES, He put AARON in his life!
  • When God wanted to bless RUTH, He put BOAZ in her life!
  • When God wanted to bless JEREMIAH, He put BARUCH in his life!
  • When God wanted to bless ME, He put BARBARA in my life!

God usually sends His blessings through people.  One person God has used to bless my life many, many times is Pastor Ken Blue. Thank you, Lord!

  1. When Satan wants to hinder you, He will also brings a person in your life! To be honest, there are some people who came into my life that I would rather they did not.
  • When Satan wanted to stop SOLOMON, he sent the DAUGHTER OF PHARAOH in his life.
  • When Satan wanted to hinder JEHOSHAPHAT he brought AHAB into his life.
  • When Satan wanted to hinder THE FARMER IN THE PARABLE OF THE SOWER he sent an ENEMY to sow tares in his field!
  • When Satan tried to stop PAUL he put ALEXANDER the coppersmith in his life!
  • When Satan wanted to destroy MORDECAI he put HAMAAN in his life!
  • When Satan wanted to destroy DANIEL he put the Persian PRESIDENTS in his life!
  • When Satan wanted to destroy JOHN the Baptist he put KING HEROD in His life!
  • When Satan wanted to stop Jesus, He put JUDAS in His life!

Consider each person in your relationships.  Ask God, “Lord, did You plant this person in my life; or did the enemy plant this person in my life?” Ask yourself— Is this person helping me in my walk with Christ, or hindering my walk with the Lord?

10 Important Words in Christian Relationships

With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” (Eph. 4:2, 3, 32).

This exhortation from the Apostle Paul is a plea for church members to exercise some T.L.C. towards others.   We all have our shortcomings and weaknesses.  None of us are perfect.  I pray these 10 words will be manifest in all our dealings with one another:

1.“Lowliness”— Being humble. Not proud.

2.“Meekness”— Not easily provoked; Yielding rights.

3.“Longsuffering”— Patience.

4.“Forbearing”— Tolerance of another’s shortcomings and failures.

5.“Love”— Putting the other person ahead of yourself.

6.“Unity”— Sticking together.

7.“Peace”— Freedom from strife or agitation; calm.

8.“Kind” — Sympathetic, gracious, adverse to hurting.

9.“Tenderhearted”— Affectionate, pitying.

10.“Forgiving” — inclined to overlook offenses; mild; merciful.

These 10 words will make a difference in your church and in your family.  How many of these words are manifest in your relationships?

Beware of Dangerous Relationships

Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. —1 Corinthians 15:33

Relationships can help you or hurt you.  Your relationships play an important role in who you are and who you become. Someone said, “You are who you run with.” Therefore we must be careful about who we hang out with.

The following story from Craig Groeschel‘s book Chazown illustrates the truth of our text perfectly:

    Jessica and Jenny were inseparable twins, dressing alike and sharing their parents’ faith in Christ. Both were morally strong. Their futures were bright with possibilities.

    Here is the story of the summer things changed. Jessica followed family tradition. As in years past, she attended a Christian camp. This year she made friends with some missions-minded girls. They didn’t talk a lot about boys or music or movies. They talked about impacting the world. Feeding the poor. Reaching the lost.

    In her church, Jessica was known as a strong Christian. But her new friends seemed to have a turbocharged faith. When these young girls prayed, they really prayed. During free time, they often read their Bibles. They talked of God as if He was a close friend, loving and directing them moment by moment.  Jessica was caught by their passion.

    Late in the summer, Jessica agreed to travel with her new friends to Honduras, to build homes for the poor and tell people about Jesus.

    That experience changed Jessica’s life forever.

    After two years of college, she took a year off to minister in Honduras. There she met Rob. They later got married, and now they serve in China as full-time missionaries. Jessica glows with the love of Christ.

    That same summer was also a fateful one for Jenny.

    Instead of attending Christian camp, Jenny talked her mom, Monica, into letting her stay with a family at their beach house along with several other girls from school. Monica hesitated, because she didn’t know the family well. But she gave in. For the rest of her life, Monica would regret this decision.

    At first, Jenny was taken aback by this family’s behavior. The parents gave the teenage girls beer. Lots of beer.

    For a week, Jenny watched, not participating with the wild crowd. They seemed to be having so much fun. After several nights of pressure from her friends, Jenny drank her first beer. The next night, she got drunk. The night after that, she smoked pot.

    That was only the beginning. Jenny met an older guy by the water. On the last night of the trip, drunk and high, Jenny gave away her virginity.

    Having discovered new friends who were more “fun” than the church crowd, Jenny was different when she returned home. More sophisticated. More grown-up. And more prone to trouble.

    Today, Jenny is an alcoholic on her third marriage, raising children from her first two husbands and a third man she met in a bar. Tonight she will sleep in a women’s shelter.

    And her mom will cry herself to sleep.

    Two sisters… Two sets of friends.. Two drastically divergent destinations.

Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.