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On Being Gracious

The words of a wise man’s mouth are gracious —Ecclesiastes 10:12

When people heard Jesus speak in the synagogue in Nazareth, they “wondered at the gracious words which proceeded out of his mouth” (Luke 4:22).

It grieves me to hear some of the ungracious things Christians (and preachers) say towards each other.  I know it must also grieve the Holy Ghost. Too often Christians are just as “mean” as non-Christians.   Job’s “friends” said some mean things about him that would make you think Job was the worst man on earth (Job 11:3; 22:5-9).

Recently someone sent me an email that paid me one the nicest compliments I have ever received.  It simply read, “Thanks again for being gracious.”   I cannot think of a nicer thing that could be said about me (or anyone else).

Aren’t you glad God has been gracious towards you?  The word gracious comes from the word grace.  Grace is God treating you better than you deserve.  How can I treat people different than the way God has treated me?  We who have have “tasted that the Lord is gracious (1 Pet. 2:3), ought to extend that same grace towards others.

Paul exhorts us to “Let your speech be ALWAY with GRACE(Col. 4:6). Yes, sometimes we need to season our speech with a little salt.  But a little salt goes a long way! If you put too much salt on your food and it becomes unpalatable and unhealthy.  Just a “sprinkle” of salt is enough. I would rather be known for gracious speech rather than salty speech.

When I mess up (which I often do) I hope people will extend a measure of grace towards my mistakes.   But, I cannot expect someone to treat me with grace if I have not been gracious towards them for their mistakes.

Think about the words that proceed out of your mouth when you speak about those who don’t measure up to your standards?  Are your words gracious words?  If you want to be treated with grace, you must also extend grace to those who fall short of your expectations (see Mt. 5;7; Luke 6:30).

When was the last time someone thanked you for being gracious?   If you cannot remember, maybe you should ask yourself, “Am I gracious?”

10 Important Words in Christian Relationships

With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” (Eph. 4:2, 3, 32).

This exhortation from the Apostle Paul is a plea for church members to exercise some T.L.C. towards others.   We all have our shortcomings and weaknesses.  None of us are perfect.  I pray these 10 words will be manifest in all our dealings with one another:

1.“Lowliness”— Being humble. Not proud.

2.“Meekness”— Not easily provoked; Yielding rights.

3.“Longsuffering”— Patience.

4.“Forbearing”— Tolerance of another’s shortcomings and failures.

5.“Love”— Putting the other person ahead of yourself.

6.“Unity”— Sticking together.

7.“Peace”— Freedom from strife or agitation; calm.

8.“Kind” — Sympathetic, gracious, adverse to hurting.

9.“Tenderhearted”— Affectionate, pitying.

10.“Forgiving” — inclined to overlook offenses; mild; merciful.

These 10 words will make a difference in your church and in your family.  How many of these words are manifest in your relationships?

Show A Little Kindness

I will shew kindness unto Hanun the son of Nahash, as his father shewed kindness unto me. — 2 Samuel 10:2

When you show kindness, your kindness will be rewarded in some way.

Many years ago an elderly couple entered the lobby of a small hotel and asked for a room. But the hotel was full. The clerk said, “I can’t send a nice couple like you out into the rain at one o’clock in the morning. Would you like to stay in my room?” The couple hesitated but the clerk insisted.

The next morning as the couple left, the man said, “You’re the kind of manager who should be the boss of the best hotel in the United States. Maybe someday I’ll build one for you.”  The clerk smiled and was amused by the man’s gesture.

Several years later the hotel clerk received a letter from that elderly man he gave his room to on that stormy night.  He asked the clerk to come to New York City for a visit and enclosed a round trip ticket for him.  When the clerk arrived, his host took him to the corner of 5th Avenue and 34th Street where stood a beautiful, elegant new building. The elderly host said to the clerk, “This is the hotel I have just built for you to manage.” The clerk said, “You’re kidding me, right?” The old man said, “No, I am serious.” The clerk asked, “Who are you?” The answer was, “I am William Waldor Astor.”  The hotel was the world famous Waldorf-Astoria. The name of the young clerk who became it’s first manager was George C. Boldt who was rewarded for showing kindness one stormy night.

Jesus said, Give and it shall be given unto you (Luke 6:38). You show kindness and kindness will be shown unto you. Try showing someone a little kindness today. You’ll be glad you did!

Responding to an Enemy

Yea, I have delivered him that without cause is mine enemy.” —Psalm 7:4

From the time David slew Goliath, King Saul viewed David as a potential threat and became David’s enemy.  Saul had no cause to treat David as an enemy. David never rendered evil upon Saul.

David had two opportunities to kill Saul, but instead of killing him, he delivered him (1 Samuel 24:9-13).  As David says in our text: Yea, I have delivered him [Saul] that without cause is mine enemy.”

David’s gracious treatment of Saul is an example to all of us in how we should respond those who are against us. Consider four possible response to an enemy:

1. Returning evil for good is DEVIL-LIKE.  To be treated with goodness and respond with ill-treatment is demonic.  David only treated King Saul with goodness and loyalty. Yet Saul returned David’s kindness with evil intent.

2. Returning evil for evil is DOG-LIKE. A dog bites back when it is bitten.  The dog returns snarl for snarl.  If I am treated badly, and I respond in like manner, I am no better than a dog.  Proverbs 24:29 says, “Say not, I will do so to him as he hath done to me: I will render to the man according to his work.” Paul writes, “See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good” (1 Thess. 5:15). Peter also says, “Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing(1 Pet. 3:9).  Don’t be dog-like in your treatment of others.

3. Returning good for good is MAN-LIKE.  When I return a favor with another favor, I’m only acting on a human plane. There is nothing commendable about giving a gift to one who has already given me a gift. That is simply a matter of human courtesy, that is only one step above from being a dog (read Luke 6:32-33).

4. Returning good for evil is CHRIST-LIKE.  We are exhorted to Overcome evil with good(Rom. 12:21). Only when we treat our enemies with kindness and love lifts us into the heavenly realm (see Ex. 23:4-5). This is to have “the mind of Christ.”  To be truly Christ-like I must treat others as Jesus has treated me (1 Pet. 2:19-20).

Are you Devil-like… Dog-like… Man-like… or Christ-like in your treatment of others?